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Relationship Conflict Assessment

Conflict Assessment in Romantic Relationships

To what extent does your romantic relationship have unhealthy conflict management styles? Find out now.

You understand that this quiz is not a diagnostic tool and does not provide medical or psychological treatment. This quiz is for educational purposes only.

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My partner and I often have to leave the room or the conflict won’t end.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

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We feel that we try to work things out ‘logically’, but we often get the sense that the other partner gets too emotional during conflict.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

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My partner and I have a habit of pointing out every flaw and mistake of one another.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

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My partner and I often feel that we can’t help it if the other person gets upset. They just need to deal with it.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

5 / 28

My partner and I just act so childish sometimes.

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6 / 28

My partner and I accuse one another of always messing up.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

7 / 28

My partner and I sometimes withdraw and distance from one another to not cause or continue a fight.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

8 / 28

My partner and I accuse each other of things that the other just doesn’t agree on.

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9 / 28

When my partner and I do or say something hurtful, we think of ways to get back at each other.

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10 / 28

My partner and I often leave during the conflict, making each other feel unheard and rejected.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

11 / 28

We don’t acknowledge each others’ efforts.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

12 / 28

My partner and I often have gridlocked opposing perspectives on how a fight occurred/what was said or done. We agree to disagree a lot.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

13 / 28

My partner and I leave the room when things get heated because the other person needs to feel bad for what they’ve said or done.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

14 / 28

My partner and I feel we don’t deserve to be treated a certain way (badly) during fights.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

15 / 28

My partner and I feel the other never makes attempts at changes we ask for.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

16 / 28

During conflict, we grow apathetic (lose interest) towards what the other partner is saying.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

17 / 28

We’re not even sure if the other partner even likes us anymore.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

18 / 28

When my partner and I tell each other we’re upset by the others’ behavior, we respond by telling them how awful we feel instead.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

19 / 28

We are quick to put down or devalue each other’s positions when sharing our perspectives.

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20 / 28

It seems like my partner and I ignore one another when we come to each other with a problem.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

21 / 28

My partner and I call each other names out of anger.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

22 / 28

Sometimes we choose not to respond to each other at all because whatever we say, it will be received the wrong way.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

23 / 28

My partner and I act self-righteous when we perceive a mistake is made.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

24 / 28

My partner and I often ask each other why the other behaves the way they do, but we don’t get satisfying answers.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

25 / 28

My partner and I just can’t take a joke.

Select true if the above statement is true for either you, your partner or both of you. Only select false if the statement is absent from your relationship.

26 / 28

When my partner and I complain, it is difficult to not bring up all the ways the other has contributed to the problem.

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27 / 28

My partner and I correct everything the other does.

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When we try to explain our intentions, the other often feels misunderstood.

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